Why Caring For Yourself Is Not Selfish
I have a thing in my family known as "Lindsay Time", which both my husband and son know is code word to leave me alone for a little bit. I feel everyone deserves a little time to themselves everyday. This is often referred to as "self care" or the taking of time to emotionally, mentally and/or physically recharge your batteries. Personally, my daily self-care consists of dedicating at least 30 minutes to one of my many hobbies that put joy in my heart and peace in my mind - like caring for my bonsai trees, riding my Peloton bike, singing and playing my ukulele or practicing Yin yoga. All of these things are essential to making me a more emotionally centered, calm, controlled person and a better mom and wife.
Why Self Care
I believe giving yourself even just a few minutes each and everyday, doing an activity that you love, will help you both emotionally and mentally. When you're burned out from working on overdrive or find yourself procrastinating from a task that you really need to complete, try adding a self-care activity to your daily routine. Remember that "taking time for yourself" is not really taking, but rather giving your body and your mind the time to let go of all the tasks and obligations that you do for others. Ever hear of the saying 'everything in moderation'? This saying can be applied to work and everything you do for others - employer, family, kids, etc. No one can spend all their time helping others. So don't feel guilty! Give yourself permission to treat yourself a little each day; it may help to re-motivate you and reduce any existing resentments you have about "not having any time for yourself".
Types of Self Care
There are many different forms of self-care depending on your mood and personal need. I will lay out the different types and give examples to help spark your imagination for your own self-care routine. Feel free to mix it up every day!
Resting and Relaxation Activities
These activities are what I call mind clearing activities. They involve very little physical activity and are designed to just restore the body and clear the mind and focus on the present moment. This type of activity is my busy husband's go-to for self care relaxation. He really enjoys binge watching Netflix and does it almost every weekend. Examples include:
- Taking a nap
- Getting a massage
- Taking a bubble bath or shower
- Watching a movie or TV show
- Reading a book or magazine
- Listen to music
Nurture Your Physical and Spiritual Health
These activities are designed to help release pent up energy in the body or elevate your mind in a positive way. Examples include:
- Riding a bike
- Going on a walk
- Working out or taking a yoga class
- Playing golf or tennis
- Doing a meditation or pray
- Recite affirmations
This is my 'Self Care' room (AKA my workout room)
Creative Expression Activities
These activities provide an outlet for creative expression. As an introvert and a financial person, I surprisingly have several hobbies that allow for creative expression. (Perhaps my real job doesn't allow enough creativity to shine through and I need another outlet, which these self care activities allow!)
Everyone has something wonderful to offer the world and spending some self care time on creative expression activities may help you create something beautiful and meaningful for someone else. Examples include:
- Painting or drawing
- Playing an instrument or singing
Recently started to learn how to play the ukulele and I love it. So much fun!
Connecting with Others
These self care activities allow you to connect with others in a helpful and healing way. Examples include:
- Calling or visiting with friends or family
- Meeting with friends for lunch or coffee
- Writing a letter to reconnect with someone
Sometimes the best self care is hanging out with your besties!
Special thanks to Megan at Pageflutter for her insights into self care!